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design your day testimonials

(written 16:44 Thursday 08 October 2020 JST)

Socializing (routine time with regular members) is good, especially during this pandemic.

Completing achievable and essential matter for everyday helps me to carry on other daily tasks that I do not mention in the group. Seeing dynamics in the group is interesting. I feel that this group is like having an accountability partner. I really appreciate the guidance received from Rob.

I also appreciate everyone else's insight. I learn a lot every day. The consistency, the camaraderie and positivity and sharing of ideas amongst the family.

what i do

(written 13:18 Thursday 08 October 2020 JST)

I listen. Rob Nugen listens.

Guiding through the jungle of emotions that surround the gold inside you, deep inside you it's terrain I have explored in myself and guided many men through, coming back to the surface with a piece of gold unique to themselves, they can shine to the world around them.

23 years experience doing my joined MKP in 1997 recognized that I need to explore more of the world, see a new culture with exotic strange letters like 裸足 and ウ サギ.

Little did I know when jumping to Japan just how different of a language it was compared to English. Give up? yes! A thousand times. Keep going? yes! N+1 times

I was a freelance university student until they said I had to choose a major. Okay, Physics. That was fine until I got to enthalpy and carnot cycles describing heat engines.

Hmmm how about computers? They have a computer science degree, so that's what I got on my way out of university. That desgre no longer fits but it has served me well in knowing how to debug problems and figure out how to approach computers.

But listening to people? THat started in my childhood, listening to the adults around me and taking on their emotions. In 1997 I was 27 and still felt like a boy, with all these layers of anger and sadness wrapped around my heart. I blew through it with a tennis racket and a pillow surrounded by men who had my proverbial back. Welcome to Mankind Project where we do things in the right way. It might be the wrong thing, but done in the right way, still builds connection, legacy and wisdom.

After that process, I realized I was a man. Not because I had smacked the shit out of a pillow, but after I sat down, I realized my hands were the same size as my father's hands. "Dad! My hands are the same size as your hands! When the hell did that happen?" "' been like that for a long time, son." Huh.

I still struggle now. Am I still a good man even though I don't have kids of my own? Can I hold space for fathers even though I'm not one? I have found i can if I stop worrying about it and just hold space.

What does hold space even mean? It means being present; being a witness for another man's work. Not like bring your mentor to work day, but internal work, being present for a man's internal struggle like how to say No to his kids and love them at the same time? How to be a married mgtow.

The ol' ball and chain does not have to be one. Is it time to cut the chain? Convert it to a ribbon connected at the heart?

How do I say no to more paying work that doesn't isnpire me and say yes to the freedom of uncertainty?

Speaking in I-Statements empowers me. Gives me power back and emphasizes my choice in the world. I-statements makes meaning more clear and takes responsibility for my actions.

Everyone came to earth with a purpose which has been covered in muck of conformity and locked into place by emotions and emotional pain of having to cover up their purpose in the first place.

Emotions all ultimately stem from this separation of ourselves from our Selves.

I help clients tap into their own resources, their own strengths. Find your inner truth and rely on that as your guidance system as you move through the days and moments of life.

Tap into your own resources and recognize that they have the power to move through their experiences

Witness clients in their truth and be present with them as they Unpeel layers of sadness and anger, etc to find inner strength that has been buried underneath the emotions, ultimately finding / uncover their gold.

Facilitating men through their emotions and journeys can only be with a guide who has done the journey himself. Feel free to tramp around in the words and woods of your mind. Having a competent guide to cut through to the core of the subject, to see your progress from a remote/removed/3rdparty/outside perspective can save years of wandering.

Activate all parts of yourself as a man, with king, lover, warrior, magician online active and healthy. Move smoothly between roles in your life, knowing when to cut clean and when to lean in.

Someone who is in a cross cultural relationship.